Ancestral Behaviors & Patterns - Playing the Victim
Exploring a low vibrational energy we can release in ourselves and our lineage
We’ve all done it. Played the victim whether consciously or unconsciously. The victimhood energy moves through all our families because at some point in our lives, and along the generational lines, everyone was a victim of something or someone. Does that really mean we have to continue this low vibing energy or can we acknowledge it and heal it? It’s all a choice depending on what energies you like to play in. Do you like to feel angry, low, victimized, shameful, hateful or would you prefer to feel good and let go of this energy and raise your vibration? All of life is a choice.
Personally, I have played the victim now and then in my 52 years on this planet. In my family and in other people, I have witnessed this behavior and pattern and not always responded appropriately.
I can honesty say that the last couple of months I’ve been a little in that victim energy based on choices made by me, myself, and I. I chose to take care of people in a higher way because I love them and they needed it and no one else was stepping up. This put a lot of stress on me. This led me to fall behind in my work which led to more stress. Which led to me getting sick and taking a week off of work in Febrarury. Which meant I had to catch up in March. However that didn’t work out so well.
I am completely caught up but the slight cough I was left with after that Febraury cold is now a full blown annoying cough. I did this to myself based on my choices to overwork and not do what I know to be right for myself in time off, rest, movement, and fun. Instead I realized I played the ‘woe is me’ card with my boyfriend (who loves me anyway and calls me out on my stuff). We make each other better people. I’m so tired because of so and so or this happened. I want to just stay home because I don’t want to deal with x,y,z. It’s all due to a,b,c that I feel overwhelmed and got sick. That victim energy is a yucky place to be though. Once I recognized that’s what I was doing, I stopped.
When we do enough of our inner work and explore our lineage for the low vibrational patterns, we can choose to end those toxic cycles and behaviors. It’s been my experience that when I’ve moved through something and am ready for the universe to “test” me to see if I let go of something, like playing victim, people or situations appear within a short time, and usually in a set of 3 because 3 is my number. This happened to me last week and of course it only took 3 instances to see how I would react or respond.
Now before I continue, we must remember, healing is like peeling an onion. It goes layer by layer. So even if we release an energy of victimhood or lack or whatever, that topic will come around again at a deeper level when we are ready. Sometimes it’s quite annoying because we wonder if we’ll ever “BE DONE” healing. Can you relate?
The Test from the Universe
Within a 24 hour period on two social media platforms and once in real life, I was attacked by three women playing in their victim mode. In case number one I chose not to respond. I sat with the words thrown at me and decided responding was not going to open any door of helpful communication. You can only meet people where they are consciously and she and I were not in alignment where a conversation without hate being spewed at me, could happen. In the past I probably would have responded and wasted energy.
Later that afternoon case number two appeared in a real life face to face situation. In this case I have known the woman for a couple of years. She has a reputation for showing up in a space and throwing temper tantrums, being mean and hateful or being sweet as pie. No one ever knows which version of her we will see day to day. Last year this woman told me a little about some teenage trauma she endured. As I listened, I thought to myself - things make more sense why she reacts the way she does, lashing out and walking away and always the one who everyone has wronged. I sent her love and just let her talk it out.
Last week when she started pulling some crap after her arrival, there were witnesses. Witnesses who would not rock the boat and speak up for themselves. Everyone has gotten so used to her tantrums that they just accept it even though she doesn’t treat them kindly.
I spoke up for the others and it was not received well. Normally since we are all adults, I usually let others work out their stuff or stand up for themselves but in this case I strongly felt I had to speak up. In the end, I chose to remove myself from the situation rather than be in her energy.
When I left the space a couple hours later, she came after me in a 80 year old woman tantrum and everything was my fault. There was no accountability on her end for any of her behaviors. I tried to respond calmly but she was not having it so I told her good luck and walked out the door.
Case number 3 happened the next morning so within this 24 hour period. Something I posted on another platform was responded to be someone from another country whose primary language was not English. Whether she misinterpreted my post due to the language barrier, was a bot, or just one of these people who likes to spew negativity - she jumped all over me. I read her comment, checked her profile then deleted her comment. Her profile looked like spam or a bot. There is no reason to respond. The old me of a couple years ago might have responded.
I guess I was getting the universal hit that my life was about to seriously uplevel. I had choices on how to respond. I must have passed the test because everything has been different since last week. I have some new boundaries in place and contacted a few people to decline some things I really have no desire to do or be a part of any longer. I’m no longer “that” person.
Ancestral Behaviors and Patterns
It’s not completely on us that we play victim. On this planet, victim energy is everywhere. It’s pushed on us daily through media, people, education, culture, government, religion, and our own ancestral lineage. It’s easy to get stuck in one energy when that’s a primary thing we grow up with. For some, it’s something that gets passed down every generation.
Look through any family history and you will find evidence of this victim mentality. Maybe we grew up without a lot of money or resources. We lived that lack energy. It made us a victim and we learned the only way to deal (perhaps by watching family members), was to lash out and emotionally shut down. Blame others for our problems and lack of accountability. Build walls so no one can approach us. For some, the victimhood shows up as a passive aggressive energy where someone has to make snide comments about a choice we have made.
As children, what if no one taught us to be accountable and to stand in our power? How do we know there are other options? Usually we discover this as adults when we have an awakening moment. Then it’s our choice whether or not to explore this and release it or stay stuck.
We Can Create Change
Our families are filled with beliefs, behaviors, and patterns that have been passed down through every generation. Many of us came here in this lifetime to identify and break those toxic cycles. To create something more positive for our children and all of humanity. It just takes one of us to do this work and everyone around us begins to shift. Are you that person who is willing to do the hard, humbling work of seeing our ancestors for who they really were? What they endured? And be compassionate about who they were as a result? And then of course, why you are who you are?
As the consciousness of humanity rises on the planet, we are all asked to go deeper into our family history and end toxic and negative cycles. Which one will you start with?